You Can Be Shy and Market Your Book Successfully
I’m Shy So Why Am I in Marketing?
People are usually surprised when I tell them I am shy. Most people don’t see me that way because I am a “situational extrovert.” If I have a job to do, I feel confident. I look for ways of helping others to take the focus off of me.
I learned shyness from both of my parents. It wasn’t until I was in my 30’s that I discovered I could do things differently. I learned some tips to help me go forward and connect with people instead of staying off in my own prison of shyness. After years of doubt, of feeling fearful, isolated, resentful and sad, I knew it was time for a change.
Breaking the Ice or How I Learned to Break Free of My Fears
It was the day I attended a luncheon where Susan Roane was the speaker. During the time before she made her presentation, she went from table to table asking questions. She got to know them as individuals. When it came time for her speech, I listened with astonishment. She ably included specific bits of information she learned from the 100 or so people in the room. Susan showed me a way out of my dungeon of shyness. Being interested in others and asking them about themselves was my ticket to being more comfortable with strangers. How to Work a Room, is one of the best books about creating connections.
Another favorite book of mine is Susan Jeffers’ Feel the Fear and Do It Anyway. This inspired me to acknowledge my fear and do things I had avoided. She identified five truths about fear. They are:
- The Fear will always be with you
- The only way to overcome fear is do go out and do what you are afraid of
- You will only feel better about yourself when you go out and do it!
- Everyone is afraid of facing the unknown
- Pushing through your fear is better than feeling helpless
Authors Can Be Shy
You can get out of the trap of shyness. You wrote a book for a reason. Focus on your purpose, your message to the world. Here are some ways for you to break free and get moving on your book marketing:
- List the reasons you wrote the book and the value people will get when they read it.
- Be gentle with yourself and remember nobody’s perfect . Pick one thing you can do today that will put you in front of your audience. Do this every day for at least 10 minutes. The more you practice a skill, the easier it becomes for you.
- Celebrate your wins. Keep track of your successes. You might do this in a digital journal or a notebook. Include positive reviews, encouraging words, awards, those wins you can look at when ever you need a boost.
- Partner with someone. You don’t have to go it alone. Get together with a friend or another author and check-in regularly. Helping others helps you.
What is Holding You Back? By Sam Horn is another book I recommend for overcoming shyness. Sam gives an assortment of practical actions you can take immediately and get on with your life.
It’s O.K. To Be Shy
- Acknowledge your fear.
- Be curious.
- Be helpful.
These are my big three fear busting tips. Do you have a tip to share about overcoming shyness? Share them in the comments area.